"If you don't know how to dance, your courtyard is crooked" – A sarcasm on excuses.

 

"If you don't know how to dance, your courtyard is crooked" – A sarcasm on excuses.

 

Introduction

Hindi proverbs not only make the language beautiful, but also express the deep truth of life in a witty manner. One such famous proverb is – “If you don’t know how to dance, the courtyard is crooked.” This proverb is often used when a person blames others or circumstances for his failure. This proverb directly attacks our thinking, attitude and tendency to avoid responsibility.

Meaning of proverb

The literal meaning of "If you don't know how to dance, your courtyard is crooked" is:

If someone does not know how to dance, he will not accept that the fault is in him, rather he will say that the courtyard is crooked and hence he is unable to dance.

This saying applies to those people who do not accept their mistakes and always blame some external reason.

Explanation of the proverb

It is common in human nature that when we fail, we tend to blame the situation, place, time, or others rather than owning up to our own faults. We tend to assume that:

Did not get the job because the interviewer was biased.

Got low marks in the exam because the paper was very difficult.

There was a loss in business because the market was bad.

That is, the fault is never in oneself, it is always in the 'courtyard'.

 

Real life examples

Example of a Student:

If a student fails in an exam, he says – “The questions were out of syllabus,” while the truth is that he himself did not study properly.

Attitude of working people:

If someone is unable to meet the deadline in the office, he says – “The system was slow”, “The network was not working”, “The boss did not explain it properly”, etc. But no one pays attention to their time management or laziness.

In personal relationships

Many times people say – “The other person was wrong, that’s why the relationship didn’t work out”, but they don’t reflect on their own behavior.

What do we learn from this proverb?

Learn to accept:

Making mistakes is human nature, but accepting them is greatness. Only when we accept our shortcomings, improvement is possible.

Introspect

After every failure, think about what you went wrong. Taking responsibility leads to self-development.

Stop blaming others

When we blame others or the situation every time, we miss the opportunity to improve ourselves.

Be self-reliant

If we think, “The courtyard is simple, I don’t know how to dance,” then we can improve ourselves.

How to teach children and students?

If children are made to understand from childhood that not every mistake is blamed outside, they become responsible citizens. Teach them that if they have failed, it is an opportunity to improve, not to point fingers at others.

From a social perspective

Our society often blames the government, the system, or fate for failures. The mentality of "If you don't know how to dance, the courtyard is crooked" does not allow us to move from developing to developed. If every person understands his share of responsibility, then positive change can be brought in the society.

Conclusion

“Dancing is not just a saying, but a deep life message. It teaches us that instead of getting scared of failure, find an opportunity to improve in it. Instead of finding excuses every time, work on yourself.

Only when we accept our mistakes, we truly learn, grow and succeed.